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We all communicate all the time with friends colleagues family members and other groups. The objective of communication is always to convince or influence people with whom you are communicating. Of course, content is the king. It should be necessary for you to say what your listener want to listen is. The subject should be interesting to them. Otherwise, there is no reason why they should listen to you and spend time with you. But the best of content can be ruined by the inaccurate and faulty communication. If you want others to pay attention to you we have to be very convincing. How can we be convincing?
The biggest challenge for communication is the inability to express yourself. The need to impress and achieve necessary results is paramount. Evidently, if there is any confusion the focus cannot remain on what you want to do whether you communicate to one person to an individual or group or a large crowd, the problems remain the same. It is the same challenge which can be disturbing. If you want people to follow you, or your principles you need to be effective. It's not possible to expect somebody to do what you want to do without any advantage in return. Therefore you have to promise them some benefit. It can be a material reward or generate better relations with others or achieve mental peace.
While deciding your objective you should always take into account the needs of your audience. Oftentimes you are not very clear what you actually want. In communications this is suicidal. If you don't know what you desire, it will be very difficult for you to move towards your goal. Whatever you are passionate about should form the nucleus of your goals. The clarity in thought process and the ability to express thought clearly should precede the communication. The communication can be verbal, written, or even when you communicate through your body language, clarity of thought has to be there.
Today I'll talk to you about six secrets of language that help you to make your ideas clear and communication focused and effective.

Six secrets are listed below.
  1. Let your words talk: It's like writing NSA where readers feel that you are talking to them. Its the language of your speech. In order to ensure that your language in verbal or written communication is the language which your Listener understands. And it should also be the language which makes you comfortable for your expression. One should be writing or speaking not to impress others but to express oneself. One can best to express when the listener feels that you are talking to him or her. Communication is not like literary writing. You don't have to be a literary master and display your writing skills. All that you have to do is to use simple language which should you to make you and your Listener at ease.
  2. Short sentences of varying length:
    Its very difficult to understand long, complicated sentences. Why long sentences happen? We keep on thinking and framing clauses to express our thoughts without a break. Sentences tend to become very long. This adds to complications in our speech. Simplicity should always be respected. Simple language is the best language. It helps you to express yourself clearly to the Listener. Whether you write or speak your language undoubtedly is critical. The sentences should be interesting. That can happen only if you use sentences of varying lengths but never very long or complicated.
  3. Use proper punctuation:
    When we write, we use the punctuation marks as prescribed in the grammar. When we speak even then we have to use the punctuation. The length of the pause normally determines whether you have completed a clause or it is the end of a sentence. Evidently, when you have spoken a phrase or a clause you must have a small pause. However, when the sentence is complete the pause should be longer. Likewise, when you have completed one particular point you will take a still longer pause. Similarly, when you change the paragraph it has to be a new line or even additional space.
  4. Say what you're trying to say:
    This is crucial for communication and critical for your ability to convince. If you are not able to express yourself clearly and effectively, if you're not able to use suitable language, it's very unlikely that you will be in a position to convince your listener. Your struggle to find accurate words puts of the listener or the reader of your communication. When you struggle to make appropriate sentences, when you use incorrect grammar the result can be disastrous. All your efforts to convince or influence get totally wasted. You are not there to waste your time and the time of your listener. You will alienate even your friends with the use of poor language. This is nothing short of casual conduct and unworthy actions. Your language is the most potent armour in your challenge of convincing others. Very effective style of language makes it easy for you to say what you want to say. It's a good idea to practice using the most appropriate language all the time. You cannot afford to be casual at any time at all!
  5. Use the best possible words:
    Rome was not built in a day, so they say. Likewise, vocabulary cannot be built overnight. One should never feel that building up an effective vocabulary is an easy job. This may take a lifetime. Learning must continue throughout your life. Similarly, you must continue to enrich your vocabulary throughout. Whether you are working or not, whether you are in business or heading an organization, whether you are a leader or a follower, it's your duty to use words with discretion. Words only can express human beings. What words you use constitutes the difference between the civilized and the uneducated. Words can only lend credence to your expressions. Therefore do whatever it takes to develop a rich vocabulary. Knowledge of words is not enough. You must have the ability to use the words to bring out the best effect. Words help you to leverage your ideas. But it requires a lot of effort. In fact, you should enjoy this effort when you speak. We all speak most of the time. Your interaction can be more interesting and effective with your expertise with the words. This enables you to play the game of communication nicely.
  6. Focus to make your transition very natural:
    Thoughts precede conversation. Thoughts come faster in the mind than the speed at which we can speak. Often, digressions are there. Imaginary, hypothetical and creative comments emerge. There are surprises; there are issues, there are negations. So always expect the unexpected. It's your duty to remain on track if you want to succeed in your communication. Don't lose focus while winning and influencing others. The transitions can be dicey. Often these are. But we can make these transitions naturally flowing provided we remain devoted to our agenda. Whenever we attend an important negotiation, before coming to the negotiating table we must prepare and practice. Efforts should be made to ensure that all your points are properly understood by the opposite party. When it is needed to hold back, you should be able to do that. Meetings and conferences which sometimes becomes very confusing need your constant and rapt attention. However when you realize that the conversations are not following the path which you had for seeing the transitions may become a little difficult. But you have to overcome these difficulties. Any challenges have to be met with poise. Command over language makes it easy.

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Thursday, 28 May 2015

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Saturday, 16 May 2015

4 Essential elements of disaster reporting on TV

The recent earthquake in Nepal has case extensive damage in the Himalayan country. Thousands of lives have been lost. Many children have become orphans the damage to the infrastructure is incalculable. In the circumstances India played its role to help Nepal, a nation in peril.

Sadly our television media reached Kathmandu and other places to cover the disaster. I said sadly, because instead of providing information to evoke sympathy that would motivate people to help; our TV jokers engaged themselves in extracting TRPs. Disaster is not to be treated thus. It is inhuman to ask a person who has lost his near ones ‘How do you feel?’. These TV reporters consider themselves as belonging to a special privileged class. Unfortunately they do not even know the basics of reporting.

The 4 essential elements of disaster reporting on TV according to me are as under:
  1. Language and tone of voice must be serious and somber. However we found that these Johnnies were taking pride in their speech. At times they were energetically emphasizing how their channel was the first to display the disaster.
  2. There should be no unnecessary details, no sensational images to hook the audience. It is an accepted norm of disaster reporting not to show details which can evoke uncontrollable emotions. However, TV reporters were taking pride in bringing all the details for the information of the viewers. Evidently it appeared that reporter was engaged in a task most dear to him. And the task was to hook the audience. It was shameful indeed.
  3. No dramatization whatsoever of tragedies. Unfortunately some of the reporters of private channels devoted themselves to dramatizing the disaster. Their voice modulation and facial expressions depicted as though they were shooting a serial. They thought they were performing their job nicely. They disregarded the suffering of people around and their feelings.
  4. Never ask silly questions to people in grief: That is the attitude expected of everyone; more so of the media reporters. However totally disregarding the same – some channel reporters were even interviewing the people in grief. A mother who lost her son was asked by a reporter ‘apko kaisa lagta hai?’ The mess our media has created in the place of disaster is shameful indeed.
It appears television in our country has mushroomed very fast and the medium is often a abused rather than used. Our government should direct that only official Doordarshan or All India Radio should cover and provide all necessary information to news agencies and TV channels.

Dadasaheb Phalke- Father of Indian Cinema

Dadasaheb Phalke was born on 30th April 1870. Initially he was working as a photographer in a small town called ‘Godhra’. He was not very happy. Further, his wife died in an epidemic- pledge. Due to death of his wife he was extremely upset and he left ‘Godhra’.

For sometime he worked for famous painter Raja Ravi Verma. The painter had great influence on Dadasaheb Phalke. His imagination grew. After working with him sometime, he left the job to start his own printing press. He had joined partners to start this printing company. He was a perfectionist. He went to journey to learn the latest technology in printing. When he came back he was able to upgrade the quality of the printing job. However his partners was not very happy with him. The attitude of the partners was more business oriented while he was motivated by his strong imagination. His desire to pursue greater success in the job of printing also came in way of business result. Eventually he resigned from the press.

He had met German Magician, Carl Heartz while in journey. Carl was one of the 40 employees (All magicians) employed by Limier Brothers. He got interested in making film. Debut film Raja Harishchandra in 1913. This film is known as the first full length Indian movie.

He devoted himself towards learning and mastering the art of film making. The lessons he had learned from the great Indian painter Raja Ravi Verma were very helpful in his pursuit of film making. The imaginative scenes he could create where exemplary. These contributed to his great success.

He was pursuing film making with all his might. Financial problems did not allowed him to do what he wanted in the field of cinema. He came to Mumbai and formed a company with five businessman. The company was named ‘Hindustan Films’ but the partnership did not last long. Finally he had to resign. He decided to retire from films in 1920. There after he wrote a play very acclaimed by called ‘Rangbhoomi’.

The Government of India recognized his contribution to the film industry. In the year 1969 the Government instituted the highest film award in his honor it is called “Dadasaheb Phalke Award”.

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The Dictionary meaning of Poise is composure or self-possession or equilibrium.

Thus a poised person is self-assured and carries himself/herself gracefully and with dignity.

For human beings the difficulty arises due to emotions. If anything is not happening as per the expectation, the individual is likely to react in a way which is often irrational. Poise is difficult to maintain. However, the benefits are immense. A poised person is able to deal with all kinds of people calmly and elegantly.

How to maintain poise? Psychologists after research have come to certain conclusions, which I would like to reproduce below:

The biggest enemy of poise is anger. Everyone would agree that anger is not beneficial to the individual under any circumstances. A person gets angry due to uncomfortable situations due to uncomfortable situations or due to his/her own inadequacies to meet the situations. One may also get angry if someone insults or speaks in a manner which is unworthy. But with practice one can meet all challenges. They can remain cool in all circumstances but this will happen with consistent efforts and self awareness.

You should laugh with others even if joke is on you. Any sarcastic remarks can easily be laugh away. Apply mind to come out with the solution. This will happen if you take things in their straight.

Life is mixture of highs and lows. Good things are followed by challenges just like night falls after day the life does not offer a regular cycle like night and day. But both difficulties and happy moments are a part of everybody’s’ life. We need to be appreciated. Keep your spirit up even when things go wrong.

Ego is another enemy of poise. Unfortunately this malady is wide spread. It is found in most well-to-do people. Realizing that ego does not serve any purpose we should throw it out from our life.

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What is Personality?

Personality comprises understanding self, fixing one’s goals, physical and mental health and various other facets of the person as seen by himself/herself and as seen by others. Indeed, understanding personality is not easy. But it is extremely important. It is important for your success. More importantly it helps you to achieve happiness.

Understanding self

Each one of us must sit down and contemplate about life’s significance. It’s a kind of vision statement which one must clarify to himself/herself. The act of contemplation on significance will always help you to adopt and maintain a proper prospective.

Specifying Your Goals

By and large everyone has wishes. But these are not specific desires. Wishes become desire only when you specify your goals. Wishes do not allowed you to focus and take actions needed for achievements. These wishes often times remain wishes. Further unrealized wishes erode self esteem. It is imperative therefore to write down clearly on your goals. Goals would state the time frame goals should also clarify how you plan to achieve. Its only when you make a practical plan that you can pursue your goals.

Physical and Mental Health

First on the list of your goals should be good health. One can achieve physically good health by taking care of food, exercise and sleep. Human body is made to last for about 100 years. So we need to use all the faculties with discretion. We must not over use, under-use, but strike a good balance and keep on becoming more effective. Mental health is even more important. It refers to your thoughts, your behavior and your attitude towards others. It also refers to your attitude towards life.

Good Communication Skills are Critical

We all communicate right from the time we are able to speak. In fact babies start communicating immediately after birth. As we grow the social considerations keep on shaping our communication skills. Besides the influence of people around, parents, teachers, friends and others we meet also create an impact. We can develop and maintain good communication skills only with regular review of our ability regarding communications.

Application of Mind

Application of mind enables you to analyze any situation. It enables you to review your performance even in challenges. In fact, human sufferings imparts great life’s lessons One should be willing to learn these lessons. Knowledge acquired through reading books, attending training programs and interacting others play an important role. One should never be judgmental. However it’s necessary to apply mind and to form opinions about anything that concerns us. This process helps us to become more decisive to pursue our goals.

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Monday, 11 May 2015

Golden Rules to Build Your Confidence

Lack of Confidence

First of fall we need to understand the reason for lack of confidence. Lack of confidence is due to a fear of one kind or another (mostly unfounded). As an American wrote, “my life was full of misfortunes which never happened”.

Of course, one need not be reckless. Yet, harboring fear never helps. We need to think rationally and pen down what makes us afraid and why. This process helps remove some of the fear and begins the path of building confidence.

A famous Management Guru one said that there are four ‘C’s which form the foundation of an individual’s growth and a Company’s progress. These four virtues are – Curiosity, Confidence, Courage and Consistency. The most important of these happen to be Confidence. If absence of confidence the other virtues will simply disappear.

It is said that “they conquer who believe they can”. Self-belief is thus the second important factor in building up confidence. Confidence emerging out of self-belief is necessary for any significant achievement. New opportunities always carry some incidence of chance. For taking any initiative you must be prepared to take calculated risk. In fact not taking any risk is the biggest risk of life.

Further, Confidence enables you to trust yourself. And if you don’t trust yourself, nobody else will. No one will feel secure in placing any responsibility on you. That will be the dead end. There is no further growth.

Lost Opportunities

Often we do not see opportunities because we are not interested. On the face of it, lack of desire acts as a strong handicap in our progress and growth. But, Confidence trains our mind to desire what the situation demands. It makes us alert enough to recognize and seize emerging opportunities. With desire created by confidence we look ahead, strive hard and succeed.

Confidence breeds courage 

For taking risk of any kind one needs to have courage. If we have confidence; we will be able to rise up to the demands of the situation. So we must go ahead and take calculated risk. Courage enables us to move ahead! Yet, if there is no confidence it will be very difficult to harness courage.


Most people lack self-confidence. You can help them! Smile. Your smile will reassure them. You will be doing a great job helping them to gain confidence. This is particularly true when somebody is meeting a new group of people. We must also remember that the more we are helping others to gain confidence, the more we enhance our own self-confidence! We help ourselves too!!!

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